Lets walk down the gangway together!
In our life we all encounter transitions… Small ones (holiday in a foreign country), middle ones (change of work) and as well big ones (becoming parent) for example. Not all of us are equal on how we face the transition but knowing the different phase of it can help you deal with it as smoothly as possible and best set your expectation for it.
OLD NORMAL (SETTLED)
NEW NORMAL - (RE) SETTLED
Transitions, just like the grief process, is never linear. We often take one step forward and two steps back. This can cause a somewhat messy feeling/experience.
You will experience many opposing thoughts and feelings as you cross this bridge. Remind yourself it’s normal to feel both excitement and fear as you step into a new season.
It is our expectations (whether we are aware of them or not) that trip us up. We face disappointment, frustrations, discouragement. It is not how we imagine it would be.
Take some time to think through your expectations.
It’s not just about you. We are all in transition and on the bridge somewhere. You will meet people that are facing their own transition. Keep this in mind when you walk through yours.
Walking through transition is met with loss and grief. We tend to ignore pain and pretend it’s not there. Not acknowledging your grief will leave it unresolved. We tend to think that if we admit that something is hard, we are not thankful and excited for the path we are on. We can experience both!
Coping tools and skills are important. It is so easy though to deal with transition using coping skills like chocolate, Netflix, exercise, etc. There is nothing wrong with this, however, make sure you stay grounded.